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Annihilate Approach Anxiety


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sarging.pngIf you are like most guys out there, you can not bring yourself to just walk up to a beautiful woman and start talking to her. Necessity being the mother of invention, there is now a whole industry of coaches, seminars and books, all claiming that they can take your average frustrated chump and turn him into a pick-up artist.

Not surprisingly there are quite a few blogs out there dedicated to this art. I’m not sure how, but a few days ago I stumbled on one called Approach Anxiety, and I was quite impressed with both the design and the content. Check it out.

One of my brothers is a brief therapist who can work wonders. He has helped thousands of people stop smoking in one session; has dispelled phobias and fears in people; has helped people lose weight without dieting. In short, what he does would probably get him arrested for witchcraft had he been born a few hundred years ago. So I forward him the AA blog and he shoots me an email with the most devious little strategem. I was wide mouthed at the simple brilliance and effectiveness of it. No need for a whole blog or book. Just one little exercise. I guess that’s why its called brief therapy.

I wish I could reveal what he devised to annhiliate approach anxiety. Unfortunately I’m sworn to secrecy. When he does give me the go ahead, I will share it. I would love nothing more than to help all the frustrated guys out there that look longingly at beautiful women and do nothing.

Actually, these days I feel like I’m signing NDAs all over the place. Just yesterday Tony Oz gave me huge news about his future plans. But I’ve given my word that I won’t share it either.

PS: if you are a guy and haven’t yet, go get the book ‘The Game’ by Neil Strauss from the nearest bookstore. Do it now.

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11 Responses to “Annihilate Approach Anxiety”  

  1. 1 Matt Savage

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    Hmmm, does his strategem have anything to do with NLP or EFT Tapping?

    In my experience there is no quick and easy way to get rid of approach anxiety, it’s just something that you have to deal with until you are used to approaching. It’s kind of like public speaking or anything else for that matter, it just takes practice to get over the fear. Just my two cents.

    -Matt Savage

  2. 2 Babak

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    Matt,
    no, not even close. EFT is total bunk while NLP has some good applications. This is something else entirely.

    “Any sufficiently advanced technology is indistinguishable from magic.”

  3. 3 Sam

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    Just found this post, did your brother give you the go ahead to release his exercise? I’d be really interested in finding out about it. heck, where does he practice, maybe I’ll book an appointment!! lol.

  4. 4 Babak

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    Sam, not yet.
    If you’re in Europe and are serious, I’ll give you his contact info.

  5. 5 Sam

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    Hi, it’s been over a year. Any news…?
    Thanks!!

  6. 6 ApproachAnxietyCure

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    “no, not even close. EFT is total bunk while NLP has some good applications. This is something else entirely.”
    EFT works but you need to practice a lot.
    NLP has many good applications, the problem is that people don’t know very well how to apply the techniques.

    In regards with Approach Anxiety there are two possible solutions.
    1) You do a lot of Approaches…I mean A LOT. Hundreds of Even Thousands..and eventually will not be so intense.
    2) You change internally how you look at the situation. You go in the field, you do an approach or two and you see what still has to be addressed. Next, you change something else in your head(i will show you how in a minute) and you test again in the real world.
    After you master it, there will be no difference between opening a hot woman or any other woman. I lied to you: in the case of opening the hotter one you will feel more energized and alive.
    Good Luck !
    Check out this one: w;wwsquidoo.com/ApproachAnxietyCure

  7. 7 scott

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    I know this will never make it into your comments since you are trying to sell something, but the problem with ‘approaches’ at all is that they are rooted not in a problem with approaching attractive women but rather the male’s need to objectify women in general. Get rid of the mommy issues, the ‘woman as sexual relief’ masturbatory objectification thinking, and general issues of hostility towards women altogether, and approaching women-as-human-beings is a non-issue. Why? Because when you lose ‘woman as sexual object’ thinking and turn it into ‘woman as human being’ thinking - you’re golden. In fact, you might even turn into a human being yourself.

  8. 8 Babak

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    scott, what am I selling again? lol re your advice, like most advice, it is valid. But it reminds me of what Oscar Wilde said: “I always pass on good advice. It is the only thing to do with it. It is never of any use to oneself.” What you are saying is easier said than done - there’s the rub.

  9. 9 ApproachAnxietyCure

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    “Get rid of the mommy issues, the ‘woman as sexual relief’ masturbatory objectification thinking, and general issues of hostility towards women altogether, and approaching women-as-human-beings is a non-issue. Why? Because when you lose ‘woman as sexual object’ thinking and turn it into ‘woman as human being’ thinking - you’re golden. In fact, you might even turn into a human being yourself.”

    Scott, probably this applies entirely on your situation. I don’t think that we need to generalize it to all the people out there.
    The approach anxiety manifests itself pretty much in the same way. How to cure it, yes it is based on the same principles but the process is different from individual to individual.

    For example if you apply the following technique you will reduce each time your anxiety but this doesn’t mean that you have to apply it on the same issues like anybody else.

    I think it’s ok to want to sell something if you bring value to people and you help them make a difference in their lives. Nothing wrong with it.

    Cheers

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